20歳の年の差婚をした外国人男性。海外にいる妻に早く日本に行きたいとせがまれ、在留資格の申請が早くおりないかと聞いてきます。3か月はかかりますよ、というと妻のために仕事を辞めて国に帰ろうかと悩んでいます。
いや、ちょっと待ってください(;^_^。
「3か月なんて長～い結婚生活からしたら短いものです。仕事辞めたら貯金も減るし、慣れた人間関係の方が楽でしょう？ 20代の彼女の言うことそんなに早く叶えたらずっと何でも言うこと聞いてもらえると思って後が大変ですよ」というと、「先生もそう思う？家族も同じこと言ってた」「最初が肝心と言われた」と。
思いとどまってくれて良かったです。結婚は続けることの方が大変ですからね。
Age difference marriage
A foreign man who got married with a woman whose age difference is 20. His new wife who lives in abroad is urging him to go to Japan as soon as possible. Therefoe he asks me how he could get her status of residence earlier. I said it will take three months at least. Then he was worried about quitting his job and returning to his country.
No, please wait a moment (; ^ _ ^.
“Three months is a short time compare to a long marriage. If you quit your job, you’ll save less money and be less comfortable on your new work relationships. I think it’s hard for you after you hear everything she said” I said. He said “Do you think so, too? My family said the same thing.”
I’m glad you stopped me. It’s harder to keep married.